#1. Never blatantly acknowledge excitement, funniness, or awkwardness.
What not to do: Situation is a bunch of people standing around at a good party, laughing, talking, snacking, etc. You say, "Hey everyone! Isn't this a great party!" Everyone quietly takes a sip and reminds themselves never to talk to you again. Never acknowledge excitement.
Why this is true, is because you're trying too hard. You're not confident. This leads us to #2...
#2. Whatever you do, do it with confidence.
What not to do: You've had a bad stomach ache all day. You go to push a door open, and you fart. Sure it's a mistake, but everyone's human. At least 5 people behind you heard it. You don't say anything and embarrassingly cough as if they misheard the fart. People quietly walk past you and remind themselves never to talk to you again.
Even if it's mistake, do it with confidence. Don't be stuck-up. Laugh at your accidents. Be confident.
Why this is true, is because everyone makes mistakes and is embarrassed by them. If someone makes a mistake, and he shrugs it off, all of the sudden this confident person becomes everyone's icon--he has dominated something everyone else is still struggling with. But, don't be stuck-up about it. This leads us to #3...
#3. Be nice.
What not to do: Someone walks onto the bus, and you're sitting in the back. Technically there's an empty space next to you. You don't want this annoying guy to sit next to you, so you move your legs over so it covers the space next to you. This guy has to sit alone up front. ("My gosh he would've been annoying.") He never talks to you again.
The one's who are rude because they have so much confidence make a lot of friends (they claim they "don't care."). But they never stop to think they make twice as many enemies. If you're considerate to people, you ultimately make twice as many friends as enemies.
The ones who say, "I don't care," might attract a few shallow-minded followers, but the reality is, everyone knows he or she cares way too much. Almost to the point of being embarrassing.
For example, a gothic girl is always cussing people out and being mean. She "doesn't care what other people think," and she "doesn't need to fit-in." Is she being "confident?" No, she's joking herself. She's cares what the goth crowd thinks, and she's certainly trying to "fit into" the rebellious crowd. She's fooling herself, and everyone knows it. She's still trying to fit in.
Another example: A chick is always checking her makeup in a little purse mirror. She checks herself at least 3 times a class. Sometimes she smears on cotton candy flavored lip gloss. She sits next to the hottest guy in class. She's alway texting on her pink cell phone that's smaller than a credit card. And guess what? She looks beautiful. And she's confident. She does it all in front of everyone and she doesn't care what they think.
YEAH.
RIGHT.
Her whole life revolves around what others think of her... she never bothers to be nice or talk to a nerdy guy because she's so full of herself. I'm not saying that trying to look beautiful is bad, but it gets bad (and embarrassing) when that's all she care about. And ultimately people say, "Oh her? She's full of herself... (she's never tried to talk to me)."
This is my goal: Someday, when people look back and remember me, I want them to say, "Oh yeah, Beau? He was a really nice guy."
I don't want them to remember: "Beau? Oh yeah, he was so full of himself."
Be nice.
#4. Don't try to be in just one crowd.
Make it your goal to be comfortable walking up to any crowd--whether it be the druggies, XC, football, volleyball, hicks, band geeks, theater dorks, emos, Christians, Mormons, goths, Mexicans, student body, gamers, car junkies ("grease monkeys"), or partiers--be comfortable talking (and getting along with) any crowd. This means being confident and nice. When someone says your name, they should not be to pin-point the crowd you're in. If you are able to manage this feat, you will be the coolest person in anyone's eyes.
Don't try to be in just one crowd.
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